PARTS Test (Parts and Relational Tendencies Scoring Test)

For each statement below, indicate how much it resonates with your experiences in relationships, using the following scale:

1 = Strongly Disagree

2 = Disagree

3 = Neutral

4 = Agree

5 = Strongly Agree

All responses are completely anonymous and confidential. I do not have access to any of the data, and results are displayed immediately after completing and submitting the test.

Section 1: Relationship with Intimacy

1. I worry about being abandoned by those I care about.

2. I often feel the need to withdraw when people get too close.

3. I crave connection but sometimes feel paralyzed by fear when I get it.

4. I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with others.

5. I feel like I have to prove my worth to keep people close.

6. I prefer to rely on myself rather than risk being let down by others.

7. I sometimes feel torn between wanting closeness and wanting to push people away.

8. I trust that others will be there for me when I need them.

Section 2: Response to Conflict

9. I become preoccupied with fixing things if a relationship feels off.

10. I tend to shut down and disengage during arguments.

11. I feel a mix of anger and fear during conflicts, and my reactions can be extreme.

12. I am able to stay calm and work through disagreements constructively.

13. I often overthink what I said or did during a disagreement.

14. I avoid discussing difficult emotions to keep the peace.

15. I sometimes feel like I can’t predict how I’ll react in a conflict.

16. I believe conflicts can strengthen relationships when handled well.

Section 3: Self-Perception in Relationships

17. I feel unworthy of love and connection.

18. I see myself as independent and prefer to handle things on my own.

19. I have a hard time making sense of my feelings about relationships.

20. I believe I can manage challenges in relationships.

21. I need constant reassurance that I am loved.

22. I avoid relying on others, even when I need help.

23. I sometimes feel overwhelmed by my emotions in relationships.

24. I feel confident in my ability to balance closeness and independence.

Section 4: Patterns in Relationships

25. I fear that my relationships won’t last.

26. I feel more comfortable keeping people at arm’s length.

27. I have difficulty trusting others, even when I want to.

28. I feel secure in long-term relationships.

29. I often feel like I am "too much" for others.

30. I dislike sharing my vulnerabilities with others.

31. I experience a push-pull dynamic where I want closeness but also feel scared of it.

32. I enjoy being close to others without fear of losing myself.

Your Attachment Style Summary:

“Attachment is a unifying principle that reaches from the biological depths of our being to its furthest spiritual reaches” - Jeremy Holmes.

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